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Hi dan,my girlfriend and I are together for 2 years now,and its the 3rd time that she has been to the club without me,she even says that she doesn’t want any commitments now,where as I do,During these 2 years we haven’t been to a club together,and I don’t know what’s going on behind my back,but she goes with her elder girl cousins to the club.please help me,I need some advice. [links]
If she really enjoys partying and you hate it, then it’s usually only a matter of time before things start to fall apart or she simply cheats and then breaks up with you. more
She also doesn’t need guys to make her feel sexy, wanted or loved because she already feels that way with me.
Watch the video below to learn more… here
So, if your girlfriend really wants to party and you don’t, here’s what I recommend that you do.. here
So, if your woman isn't showing you the respect, love and affection you deserve, watch this eye-opening, life-changing video by Dan Bacon to find out what you've been missing. [links]
Do you think that you and your partner might have different ideas about the behaviors that do and don’t qualify as infidelity? With all of the uncertainty about what does and does not qualify as cheating, it’s high time we had a universal, digital-era definition. And here it is, as it appears in my book, Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating:
I developed this definition because it focuses not on specific sexual behaviors, but on what ultimately matters most to a betrayed partner — the loss of relationship trust. That is the crux of infidelity, and it is what must be repaired if cheaters hope to salvage a deeply damaged primary relationship. In fact, after more than 25 years as a therapist specializing in sex and intimacy issues, I can state unequivocally that the process of healing a relationship damaged by infidelity begins and ends with the restoration of trust. Moreover, to repair relationship trust, cheaters must not only come clean — in a general way, with the guidance of an experienced couple’s counselor — about what they have done, they must also become rigorously honest about all other aspects of their life, both in the moment and moving forward.
Conversely, cheaters who truly want to save their primary relationship will opt for rigorous honesty and the restoration of relationship trust. And no, trust is not automatically restored simply because the infidelity stops or stays stopped for a certain period of time. Instead, trust is regained through consistent and sometimes emotionally painful truth-telling and accountability. Basically, cheaters must make a commitment to living differently and abiding by certain boundaries, the most important of which is ongoing rigorous honesty about absolutely everything, all the time. They need to start to fearlessly tell the truth no matter what, even when they know it might be upsetting to their partner.
Remember at the outset I mentioned how trust is formed in our earliest relationships just after birth? If trust is missing in these formative years, it creates uncertainty, doubt, and inconsistency that linger over a person's entire lifetime of interactions. While it is certainly possible to have people who are not volatile be untrustworthy, it is far more likely that someone whose emotional state fluctuates wildly is. The reason is that they will make promises they quickly regret and retract. They are never certain of why they are making the decisions they are making. And they are far too easily influenced by external factors over their internal compass. Again, we all change our minds now and then, but if someone has a pattern of consistently flip-flopping, look out. Nothing is anchoring that person to an emotional state you can trust.
Before I go further, I'll caution you that my experience has consistently been that trying to rehabilitate pathologically untrustworthy people is a fool's journey. Their perception of reality has been shaped in such a way, and at such a formative age, that nothing short of a direct emotional nuclear hit will dislodge the survival and coping mechanisms they have developed. What's even worse is that these people not only distrust others, while they make effuse claims of "trust me," but they also do not trust themselves. In other words, while their actions may let down, damage, and hurt others, in the end they are mostly undermining themselves. Which is why, over the long run, being untrustworthy is punishment enough. here
People who are untrustworthy also have an amazingly consistent habit of accusing others of behaviors that they themselves are exhibiting or are contemplating. This one is a classic seen regularly by relationship counselors. It goes something like this. Mary is constantly accusing Jack of contemplating new employment. Jack knows that he is not only perfectly happy where he is and not seeking employment elsewhere but he has also never made any indications that he might be. Jack is befuddled by Mary's ongoing accusations. Guess who is looking for new employment? That's right, Mary. If someone is constantly accusing you of something which you know to patently false, chances are very good that what that person is doing is projecting his or her own untrustworthy behavior and insecurities onto you. This one should ring in your head like the bells of St. Paul's when you hear it. [links]
It's been said that the only way to definitively tell if you can trust someone is to trust that person. While that may well be true, there are certainly telltales that untrustworthy people almost always exhibit, which will help you mitigate the damage they may cause. If you're building a fast-growth organization or if you are breaking new ground with a new innovation, trust is the superglue that will hold your team together. I've seen it repeatedly. Nothing propels a great team further or undermines a team faster than trust or its absence; the same can be said about virtually any relationship.
Of course, we all tell occasional white lies ("why, yes, honey, there definitely is a Santa Clause!"), stretch the truth ("it really was the biggest fish I'd ever caught!"), conveniently forget facts ("gee, I didn't realize I ate the last piece of pizza!"), and otherwise create hairline fractures in trust. But that's rarely of concern. The danger zone is entering into relationships with people who see trust as something they can use to manipulate the truth to serve their own purposes, without regard for the impact it has on others. here
This one has always amazed me. We all remember as kids swearing someone to secrecy only to have them break the promise and then rationalize it by saying, "But I only told one other person." Well, it's baffling how that same behavior plays out among adults. Confidentiality, when agreed to (and in the absence of any illicit or illegal activity), is a sacred bond. This one to me is a nonnegotiable. Once someone has broken a pledge of confidentiality, there is no second chance because that person has already demonstrated a desire to gain favor with others that is greater than his or respect for them. By the way, it's incredibly easy to pick this one out because inevitably these people will share things with you that you can tell were said to them in confidence by others. You can be assured that if they did it to somebody else, they will do it to you. There is zero hope for trust where there is no respect for confidentiality. [links]
22. She *really* seems to know what she’s doing in bed. [links]
Beware of the attention whore.
Piercings out of the ordinary places (anywhere else except for the normal ones on earlobes) that’s a big sign.
They say that knowledge provides us with the greatest power. And now you have the power to know whether or not a girl is simply stringing you along. And if she is, then you have no choice but to cut that string. You now have no excuses (and no, her being one of the most beautiful women you have ever seen is not an excuse). You are a man. You are better than that.
And as they say: you can’t turn an attention whore into a housewife.