No, "hot" means voltage, not what it feels like. A $10 test light from an auto parts store is what you need. Hook it to the negative post on the battery and turn on the key- your small wire to the solenoid should have power- touch the tip of the test light to the terminal and it should light up. Also, you should have one heavy gauge wire going to the ignition switch and that should be hot all the time whether the key is on or not. That wire should be fused to the battery/power bus.
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